Not That Kind of Girl

Not That Kind of Girl

A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned"

eBook - 2014
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#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLERIncludes two new essays!NAMED ONE OF THE TEN BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY MICHIKO KAKUTANI, THE NEW YORK TIMES • NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY BUZZFEED, THE GLOBE AND MAIL, AND LIBRARY JOURNALFor readers of Nora Ephron, Tina Fey, and David Sedaris, this hilarious, wise, and fiercely candid collection of personal essays establishes Lena Dunham—the acclaimed creator, producer, and star of HBO's Girls—as one of the most original young talents writing today. In Not That Kind of Girl, Dunham illuminates the experiences that are part of making one's way in the world: falling in love, feeling alone, being ten pounds overweight despite eating only health food, having to prove yourself in a room full of men twice your age, finding true love, and most of all, having the guts to believe that your story is one that deserves to be told. "Take My Virginity (No Really, Take It)" is the account of Dunham's first time, and how her expectations of sex didn't quite live up to the actual event ("No floodgate had been opened, no vault of true womanhood unlocked"); "Girls & Jerks" explores her former attraction to less-than-nice guys—guys who had perfected the "dynamic of disrespect" she found so intriguing; "Is This Even Real?" is a meditation on her lifelong obsession with death and dying—what she calls her "genetically predestined morbidity." And in "I Didn't F*** Them, but They Yelled at Me," she imagines the tell-all she will write when she is eighty and past caring, able to reflect honestly on the sexism and condescension she has encountered in Hollywood, where women are "treated like the paper thingies that protect glasses in hotel bathrooms—necessary but infinitely disposable." Exuberant, moving, and keenly observed, Not That Kind of Girl is a series of dispatches from the frontlines of the struggle that is growing up. "I'm already predicting my future shame at thinking I had anything to offer you," Dunham writes. "But if I can take what I've learned and make one menial job easier for you, or prevent you from having the kind of sex where you feel you must keep your sneakers on in case you want to run away during the act, then every misstep of mine will have been worthwhile."Praise for Not That Kind of Girl "The gifted Ms. Dunham not only writes with observant precision, but also brings a measure of perspective, nostalgia and an older person's sort of wisdom to her portrait of her (not all that much) younger self and her world. . . . As acute and heartfelt as it is funny."—Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times "It's not Lena Dunham's candor that makes me gasp. Rather, it's her writing—which is full of surprises where you least expect them. A fine, subversive book."—David Sedaris "This book should be required reading for anyone who thinks they understand the experience of being a young woman in our culture. I thought I knew the author rather well, and I found many (not altogether welcome) surprises."—Carroll Dunham "Witty, illuminating, maddening, bracingly bleak . . . [Dunham] is a genuine artist, and a disturber of the order."—The AtlanticFrom the Trade Paperback edition.
Publisher: 2014
ISBN: 9780812995008
Characteristics: 1 online resource


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Nov 01, 2016

I had no idea what to expect when I took this book out, having never seen her television show, but I'm surprised by how much I'm enjoying the book. It's provocative and would probably shock a certain element of society, but I found her honesty and candor refreshing. If you're interested in her background, check out her parents' art on-line, because that will help explain a lot about who Lena is and how she became so seemingly immune to controversy.

Oct 10, 2016

Not what I thought it would be. Not interesting at all. It was a waste of time.

britprincess1ajax Aug 04, 2016

I adore Lena Dunham. She's abrasive and in-your-face and honest as all hell. She's like a coarse Nora Ephron, Jr., emulating the late great in many ways. But, at her age (and I'm younger than her, so this shouldn't sound too condescending), she can't write a genuinely great memoir. Her life is great and can seem grand and wonderful to the onlookers, the fans of GIRLS, the indie film circuit who revelled in her little-known flick TINY FURNITURE. But you can't write 250 pages about your twenty-eight years without starting to sound redundant. In fact, she starts to repeat herself about halfway through. A mere 100 to 150 pages max would have suited her better; her editor needed to show Lena how to kill her darlings, cutting a few essays here and there. What I did like, though, is her prose. Her style speaks to me, a natural flow that is both articulate and conversational, eloquent but not verbose. I enjoyed that. I also liked her structure, grouping essays into work and sex and love and such, breaking them down by subject matter. It worked well for her. What I like best is that, in one essay, she said that she couldn't wait to turn eighty and write a tell-all about all the men who treated her like scum, the famous names who wanted sex in exchange for success. She didn't drink the Kool-Aid; she took the high road instead. And I'm glad. And I can't wait until Lena turns eighty. That's a book I'll want to read. NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL is okay for now, though. For fans of hers, I'd still recommend it.

Jun 19, 2016

Loved it.

Jan 09, 2016

It is a very humorous and easy read. There are many parts to her experiences that I think many people can relate to, others you can't help but laugh.

Dec 22, 2015

I didn't love or hate this book. It was not a smooth progressive story with a timeline, instead it was just a series of stories about odd relationships all put together.
It was entertaining at times, and sometimes I did laugh at the humor. But some of it I found "fluff", and would just skip the story entirely.

Sep 04, 2015

I didn’t know what to expect from this book when I started it, but I ended up being glad I read it. There were times in the book where I thought Lena Dunham was insufferable, but most of the time it was entertaining and interesting to read her essays about her Millennial, New Yorker life.

MaryCatherine8183 Sep 03, 2015

Mediocre crap. Waste of time. What told this Lena 'girl' she had anything of value to say is beyond me. How or why she ended up with a T.V show just shows me the sad state America is in, when this sort of trash is entertainment.

Aug 27, 2015

Lena Dunham is controversial to some, but that doesn't make her writing any less engaging. She is hilarious and awkward in a way that definitely made me feel some schadenfreude (like when she meets a group of cool new people and proceeds to vomit all over their carpet). I'm guessing some of it may be embellished a bit, but it is truly entertaining, and for that I forgive all trespasses. Be prepared for a lot of talk about uncomfortable situations. I was squirming with embarrassment for her at times, but since she is so successful I can't feel too bad!

Catmamakim Jul 05, 2015

Hilarious, disturbing, and provocative. Not as harsh as Chelsea Handler and a much smoother read. The book is divided into collections of short narratives instead of being one long storyline. I appreciated this setup as it allowed for breaks in between some of the heavier content.

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