I Am Not your Perfect Mexican Daughter

I Am Not your Perfect Mexican Daughter

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National Book Award Finalist!Instant New York Times Bestseller!The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian meets Jane the Virgin in this poignant but often laugh-out-loud funny contemporary YA about losing a sister and finding yourself amid the pressures, expectations, and stereotypes of growing up in a Mexican-American home. Perfect Mexican daughters do not go away to college. And they do not move out of their parents' house after high school graduation. Perfect Mexican daughters never abandon their family. But Julia is not your perfect Mexican daughter. That was Olga's role. Then a tragic accident on the busiest street in Chicago leaves Olga dead and Julia left behind to reassemble the shattered pieces of her family. And no one seems to acknowledge that Julia is broken, too. Instead, her mother seems to channel her grief into pointing out every possible way Julia has failed. But it's not long before Julia discovers that Olga might not have been as perfect as everyone thought. With the help of her best friend Lorena, and her first kiss, first love, first everything boyfriend Connor, Julia is determined to find out. Was Olga really what she seemed? Or was there more to her sister's story? And either way, how can Julia even attempt to live up to a seemingly impossible ideal?
Publisher: [Place of publication not identified] :, [publisher not identified],, 2017
ISBN: 9781524700508
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September's Pick: This realistic young adult fiction has an authentic and sympathetic main character searching for answers to her sister's mysterious life after her sudden death while dealing with her parents' expectations versus her own desires and demons.

"This book slayed me – it’s such a gritty, realistic look at what it is like to navigate grief, identity, and community as a strong-willed teenager trying to find one’s place. Julia is raw, vulnerable, lonely, but also intelligent, and fiercely independent – she’s a brilliant character to fo... Read More »

#9 When the sister who delighted their parents by her faithful embrace of Mexican culture dies in a tragic accident, Julia, who longs to go to college and move into a home of her own, discovers from mutual friends that her sister may not have been as perfect as believed. National Book Award final... Read More »

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Oct 14, 2020

I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter, written by Erika Sanchez, follows the story of a first-generation Mexican daughter, Julia, growing up in Chicago. Julia is facing Americanization through her upbringing as a first American generation. Her Mexican heritage and her American Upbringing causes a big clash between her and her family. The divide between Julia and her mother is pulled further apart by Olga, Julia’s older sisters, unexpected death. Julia is trying to find out more about her sister and who she was when she was alive, and in the process, she’s also finding little pieces of herself. I really liked this book and seeing how she dealt with the problems that she faces. I recommend this book to an age group of 12 and up because it does deal with adult content.

Sep 06, 2020

This book was super great! I loved the whole plot. It was very different from other books that I have read, and it provided a very realistic look into a different culture. The author did a great job of showing Julia's (the main character) and the rest of her family's feelings. You could really tell how deeply everyone was impacted by Olga's (the sister) death. There were a lot of plot twists in the story, which I especially liked because it kept the story from becoming boring. There was one in particular that really shocked me because it was so unexpected. I would honestly encourage people to read that book just for that plot twist because it really was surprising. This book does have quite a few curse words in it, though, which I could do without. I think the emotions could have been expressed without them. Overall, while this book did have some sensitive topics such as suicide and parental disregard, it was a super great book!

JCLJENNYT Feb 20, 2020

This book was decent. Julia wasn't my favorite protagonist personally and I am not entirely certain that it has aged exceptionally well with political correctness. Overall the story tugged at my heartstrings to begin with but petered off so a solid enough read but one that I think will fade at least to me over time.

Groszerita May 26, 2019

I love this book. Love it. I want to own it. I want to reread it again and again and again. So many different topics - mother and daughter relationship, sister relationship, death, expectations from family, suicide, tragedy, immigration, border crossing, what else? Love.

Dec 05, 2018

There is a reason this book has won so many awards. "I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter" had been shook from beginning to end. It has an amazing portrayal of a family's grief and the kind of emotional monster it be. Julia is a protagonist I really connected with, especially in her times of anger and contempt. This is a very powerful story about family, connection and the twists and turns in this book WRECKED ME. This book is powerful, intelligent, and should not be missed.

LPL_EricaS Nov 05, 2018

Olga was a perfect daughter until an accident took her life. Julia, wrapped in grief that often comes out as disrespect and spite, focuses on how she was different than her older sister and how she will never follow in the footsteps of an obedient daughter. She will graduate high school, move out of their cockroach infested apartment in Chicago, go to college in another state, become a writer, and never look back. When she stumbles upon some scandalous belongings in her late sisters room, her focus shifts to finding out just what was going on in Olga's perhaps not so saintly life. Outings with a boy named Connor or her best friend Lorena and plans for a quinceañera she never wanted sometimes help lighten her demeanor and let her shed some of her hard exterior. You will root for her to be more accepting of life and to let go of her pain.

Oct 29, 2018

Many of the themes treated in the book are serious and "unpleasant" but the author has managed to build a good plot to talk about them. When I go back overseas, I will probably read this with my students.

CedarMill_MarkR Aug 24, 2018

Julia's sister died and it has thrown her family into a tailspin. Julia struggles against her Mexican parent's expectations, her grief, and what society expects her to be as she searches for answers about a sister she may not have known so well. This is a searing look at a teenage girl struggling with so many expectations as she carves out a unique identity for herself. She is not always likable but she is definitely real. A good read.

May 12, 2018

I'm always finding myself combing through book shelfs searching for my next favourite YA novel and in my search, I stubbled across I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. The book's about a girl named Julia, as she tries to find her way in the world while dealing with the death of her sister who she barely knew. With their family torn apart by her death, Julia soon discovers that her sister's life may not have been as perfect as she had once thought. I found myself become attached to Julia, especially in the beginning with her light hearted jokes that left me smiling like crazy as some points. Still, this book deals with some sensitive subjects such as depression, suicide, and racial discrimination all of which are important topics to talk about. I did however find the ending fairly predictable and left things unresolved. Overall, it was a good rainy day read, definitely makes you stop to think after. - @Ruby_Tuesday of the Hamilton Public Library's Teen Review Board

Apr 21, 2018

Julia struggles to process the sudden death of her sister Olga and stumbles upon a mystery in the process. I enjoyed Julia's voice and no non-sense attitude.

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Mar 21, 2019

I read the book I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. Julia has a very typical mexican family. A lot of aunts,uncles, cousins and of course you can’t forget people she has never even met that are somehow related to her. Julia and Olga are sisters. They have a typical sister bond, but they use to be so close when they were smaller. Now Olga has always been the favorite of everyone and Julia hasn’t. Julia always thinks about that when they go to family gatherings or important events. A very shocking thing happened to Julia’s family and now everything seems like is going downhill.


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