Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered

Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered

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"A conversation between friends Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark about what they've learned from their biggest mistakes, their most triumphant successes, their favorite therapists, and their mutual obsession with true crime. From growing up as latchkey kids to their formative years working at the Gap and Hot Topic to their struggles with substances and mental health, Karen and Georgia share a series of captivating stories about some of the most significant moments in their lives. Together they inspect their own hard-earned wisdom with brutal and hilarious candor. In a culture that mythologizes killers, celebrates 'personality-corrupting toxic masculinity bullshit,' and holds victims responsible for the violence committed against them, Karen and Georgia preach self-advocacy, self-love, and freedom from responsibility for other people's choices. Guided by their own experiences and revelations with a little help from the Riot Grrrl movement, Ann Rule, and 'billions of hours of therapy,' Karen and Georgia are here to encourage you to put your own needs first and become unfuckwithable. Part dual memoir, part life manual, [this book] is an account of two lives that collided over the dark stuff. Inspired by the empowering and offbeat battle cries made famous on their hit podcast, Karen and Georgia recount the formative moments of their lives that taught them everything they know, and everything they don't, about life, friendship, and various pancake situations."--Dust jacket.
Publisher: New York :, Forge,, 2019
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9781250178954
Branch Call Number: 155.333 K483a 2019
Characteristics: 300 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm
Additional Contributors: Hardstark, Georgia - Author


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ReadingAdviser_leni May 27, 2020

I had been hoping for more of what the podcast offers. This is a memoir of the two authors/podcasters.

JCLMyshaP Mar 30, 2020

In this book, hosts Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark of the My Favorite Murder podcast give an honest and emotional portrait of key moments in their lives that made them who they are. They discuss their individual experiences of drug addiction, mental illness, growing up as latch-key kids, navigating the world and the entertainment industry in California with so much humor and heart. This is a fun and entertaining book for everyone, even those unfamiliar with the podcast.

Mar 27, 2020

Not recommended. This book has a great title and possibly even some good advice, but the writing is so cutesy-cool I didn't listen past the first 5 minutes.

Mar 20, 2020

Very funny and LOTS of swear words. A quick read. I don’t enjoy memoirs or self-help books much but this one was very entertaining, mostly because of the all the swear words.

Jan 25, 2020

I knew what to expect with this book from the descriptions and the reviews, however I still somehow struggled to get through it. I think it might be because the way it is written is similar to the way they chat on the podcast which is fine to listen to, but is different when you are reading it. I didn't mind the book, but wouldn't rave about it.

PimaLib_ChristineR Dec 22, 2019

If you love the podcast, you'll probably enjoy this book. If colorful language bothers you, um, this is NOT THE BOOK FOR YOU, and neither is the podcast. In fact, how did you get here?

So, Stay Sexy and Don't Get Murdered is filed under Dewey Decimal 155.3, which is Philosophy and Psychology > Psychology > Developmental And Differential Psychology > Sexuality and Gender. And I suppose that's about as close as we can get to defining this book. While the podcast generally focuses on two murder cases per episode, this book is definitely not True Crime. But neither is it a full autobiography of the two hosts, Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark. Instead, Karen and Georgia riff on some of the repeated themes that come up in the podcast, and fill them out with anecdotes from their own lives.

And that's where we get to the 155.3, because if there is any overarching theme to their work, it is that women have been trained to accept unacceptable behavior, to smile and be polite even at possible risk to their very lives. Karen and Georgia are here to tell you in no uncertain terms "F*&^ Politeness" (title of chapter one, redacted) when you need to, and to trust yourself about when that time is.

I thoroughly enjoyed the book because I think these ladies are hysterical, and this book is an expansion on some of the key themes of the podcast. And each woman very much brought her voice to her writing. However... Georgia's parts of the book are much more engaging because she is more open about her past, and tells her stories as just that, while Karen (forgive me) writes to TEACH YOU SOMETHING. Even as she discusses her own battle with alcohol she writes to "you." For me, it felt too didactic, especially when I couldn't identify with the "you" she was writing to. Despite that drawback, the book as a whole is a joyful romp through mistakes and lessons learned that will keep an MFM fan entertained for hours.

IndyPL_CarriG Oct 17, 2019

A couple of confessions before I talk about this book: first of all, I do listen to the podcast and enjoy it. However, I am in what seems like the minority in that I'm not a huge true crime fan (confession #1) AND I actually enjoy Karen and Georgia shooting the breeze more than their actual discussion of true crime (confession #2). So I was really looking forward to this book coming out because I expected it to be more like the witty banter parts of their podcast episodes.

Now I did enjoy this book very much, and I want to be clear about that from the beginning. However, I think I was expecting more memoir and less advice. To be fair, they blatantly told me in the introduction that I shouldn't read it. I believe they said that if you remotely had your sh** together that this book isn't for you, go do something else. But there I went, not listening to what these ladies were telling me, and read it anyway. I guess that means I have my sh** together, but I'm just not self-aware about it? Or maybe I'm just not good at doing whatever people in books tell me to do. The book was structured around some of their more popular sayings (“let’s sit crooked and talk straight,” “F*** politeness”, “You’re in a cult, call your dad”) along with anecdotes from their past that they related to these sayings, basically saying how they had done a bad job at following their own advice in the past and how they were doing better, and we should all do better now.

I'm glad I read it and I enjoyed it. It is definitely a worthwhile read if you enjoy the podcast. And if you enjoy witty, clever women letting you know the wisdom that's gotten them through hard times. It’s funny and eye-opening and at times a little sad and you definitely learn some new things about Karen and Georgia. They are very funny women who have helped a lot of people with their openness about their mental health, with their fundraising, and even with their advice, and they deserve every bit of success they’ve achieved.

VaughanPLAlison Sep 26, 2019

Not what I expected. I was hoping for more true crime, but it is in fact about the two hosts and their lives and their thoughts and feelings on certain things. Having said that, still a very enjoyable read. The two authors are funny, interesting and willing to really expose themselves, and I like the overall messages. Glad I checked this out.

Sep 23, 2019

I listened to the audio-book (well the first 2 discs) and they used the "F" word so much, I didn't want to listen anymore. That made it a negative experience for me. I don't know why they have to use that language as it takes away from their message.

JCLS_Ashland_Kristin Sep 05, 2019

I have never listened to their podcast and I still found this to be an enjoyable read. Readers from generation x will be able to relate!

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PimaLib_ChristineR Dec 23, 2019

"I knew I had to quit just to make room in my life to be happy enough to try something else. At least four years had gone by since I could reasonably say I was quitting while I was ahead. At this point, I was quitting before I was dead."

PimaLib_ChristineR Dec 23, 2019

"Don't believe anyone who tells you the people who love you are bad for you. That's a huge red flag. No one who wants the best for you wants you to have *less* human connection."


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