Apr 16, 2018arunothia rated this title 5 out of 5 stars
I would be lying if I said I could fully empathize Audre's struggles because being a black lesbian woman is something that's beyond my experiences. But reading this book is such a blessing because Audre speaks from her experiences and such a wisdom is definitely precious. The Eye-Eye chapter, in which she addresses the unsettling clashes between black women themselves made me understand several things about my own self as a woman. Very often than not, women treat each other as threat, not out of a conscious choice but out of a long history of brain washing that a women is worth only the Man she manages to get. Many such subtle realities of sexism or any "ism" in general can be understood better by reading this book. I was this person (way back in high school), who believed that Gays/Lesbians are just desperate people making stupid choices. I never intended this thought as an offence to anyone, I genuinely believed in it. Why? Because, I neither had met these people nor did the people around me correct me at this stage. Why? It's simply because our society either prefers silence or outright ridicule (that I have such stupid thoughts) than preferring a healthy dialogue in teaching each other about our misconceptions and growing out of it (though it did happen to me later in college, I think I just got lucky to be with better people). The following lines from Audre is movingly powerful -
" We can learn to work and speak when we are afraid in the same way we have learned to work and speak when we are tired. For we have been socialized to respect fear more than our own needs for language and definition, and while we wait in silence for that final luxury of fearlessness, the weight of that silence will choke us."
I recommend this book to all.